Why “Deadbeat" doesn't apply to everyone who can't pay child support.


- Stop calling custodial parents deadbeats for not sharing their children or for being alienators. Sadly many of them are going through the motions taught to them by society and do not even realize the damage they are causing. They need education not criticism. We can’t change them while attacking them because they won’t hear our message they’ll defend themselves instead. Speak so you can be heard not so you can equally hurt them. - Stop blaming moms for dads that do not have custody or fair parenting plans. Not all moms support such unfairness and you are generalizing which does not help the cause it fuels the hate.

- Stop calling dads greedy for wanting parenting time. Not all dads are asking for parenting time to lower child support and suggesting that they do does not help the cause it fuels the hate.

- Stop calling it fathers rights or mothers rights and start referring to the problem as non custodial parents rights because every parents rights should exist and matter equally as long as they are FIT parents.


Yes you may be a father and want to promote your rights but I know that does not mean you do not support a mothers rights. Yes you may be a mother and want to promote your rights but I know that does not mean you do not support a fathers rights. If you decide to support a gender then do it with kindness and compassion for the other gender. Stop attacking moms and stop attacking dads because we are all in this fight together. The stigmatism’s that exist wont fade till the word usage changes. Every time you go to make a post or share a meme consider using noncustodial parent or custodial parent instead of mom or dad.


Ex; “the mom who doesn’t support dads time with their child is causing mental abuse against her child.”You could say “The parent who doesn’t support the other parents time with their child is causing mental abuse against their child” Same exact message and promotes all fit parents vs all mentally abusive parents. We can’t win a war when we are fighting it with verbal fuel that keeps the flames burning. Get your message across without attacking others, it promotes solution and compassion rather than promoting blame and segregation.


-Parentnotvisitors.com

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